Past Hurts, Injuries and Disappointments (Close the Chapter 2)
Close the chapter on past hurts, injuries, and disappointments. If you do not do so, you cannot move forward in a fulfilling way. Many of us have been hurt and betrayed at one time or the other. Many have been wounded in life. You must however not leave your wounds open. If you leave them open, they fester to become terrible sores. Untreated and unhealed wounds can become infected thus leading to more deadly diseases. Many a person has died from wounds that could have been treated and recovered from.
Emotional wounds are dangerous, so you must not leave them open or untreated. Furthermore, understand that revenge does not heal an emotional wound. It rather infects it. Bitterness and unforgiveness never heal emotional wounds. They infect them. Feeling sorry for yourself and going into depression will never heal your life; it will rather systematically tear you apart. At times in seeking pity and understanding from others when we have been wounded and hurt, we do not realize that we become more vulnerable thereby allowing so called sympathetic ears take advantage of us. Many women have found themselves getting into illicit affairs with men who “offered them a shoulder to cry on.”
Arise in your mind. Take responsibility. Don’t subject your joy to the whims of a wicked injurious fellow. Write your script through faith in God. Understand that while you cannot control the actions of others towards you, you can choose your reactions. This is a response of faith. If you do not bring a closure to hurts and wounds you have put your future firmly in the hands of the people who hurt you in the first place.
Be proactive in your response. Find out how you can move forward from the point of betrayal. Empower your life through thinking solutions and not being bedeviled by problems, hurt, and pain. You cannot want to move forward yet keep your gaze fixed backwards. Deal with it, and let it go.
Suoyo Aganaba 